Genius #2
"I have another consideration...
Maybe the men who cheat do so because too many women, once in a committed, exclusive relationship, married or just boyfriend/girlfriend start VIEWING sex as something they can use as a TOOL.
They withhold it as a punishment and grant it as a reward. Most women are aware of the dynamic you've described and have learned how to use it as a power play or leverage. I know of some women who
openly brag that they don't have to have sex anymore now that they have a man!
Before we talk about men cheating in relationships, I think we also need to talk about women who feel they can shut sex off or use it as a reward or punishment in a relationship. In other words, these women,
MANY of them, abuse the fact that the man has committed to only get his sexual needs met from her now that they're in a relationship. I'm not saying she needs to be ready for sex whenever he wants it but she
shouldn't feel she has the right to turn it off altogether or use it as an incentive or a punishment and then wonder why they man is suddenly cheating or looking elsewhere.
You're right. Men want simple, quick, straight-up sex. We also don't want BAGGAGE attached to it like it's a reward for being a "good boy" and building a deck or it's a punishment for watching too much football.
You say it's a lucky woman that finds a man that cares about pleasing her sexually?
I say, it's a lucky MAN who can find a woman who views sex as a physical expression of passion and love instead of a chore, a reward or a punishment. Maybe if more WOMEN didn't abuse the power they hold in
the relationship regarding sex more men would care about pleasing them instead of getting their rocks off. It works both ways.
Sexual fidelity is a TWO WAY STREET. If a man pledges to only get sex from one woman, that woman should not be able to ABUSE that arrangement for leverage either!
Women make me sick who think they can shut sex off entirely if they choose, withhold it or offer it up as a reward once they are in a committed relationship and the man
is just supposed to take it, never cheat and live like that for as long as they are together.
What if you and your best friend both loved tennis and you made a commitment that you would only play tennis with each other and playing with anyone else would be "cheating"?
Suddenly your friend doesn't want to play tennis that much anymore, or says that they only want to play if you wash their car first or maybe they are withholding tennis because they are upset
with you over something. This is how too many women view sex in relationships "
this one is just smart overall. He deserves 2 medals :)
Again this guy has been REAMED online by women and whipped bitches...the tennis comparison is really funny :)
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